When Healing Feels Like Sh*t: What to Do When You’re Tired of the Process
The Truth No One Talks About
Let’s be honest:
Healing doesn’t always feel good.
Sometimes it feels like grief.
Sometimes it feels like rage.
Sometimes it feels like you’re getting worse, not better.
And if you’ve ever thought:
“I’m tired of this.”
“Why is this still happening?”
“I just want to feel normal again.”
You’re not alone.
This post is for the days when you want to throw the crystals out the window, cancel all your sessions, and quit the damn journey.
Why Healing Hurts Sometimes
Here’s the deal:
When you start to feel safe, your body finally releases what it’s been holding.
That means old pain, old stories, and old trauma can come up—and out.
It’s called integration.
It’s messy. It’s uncomfortable. It’s necessary.
Healing is not about feeling better. It’s about feeling everything you never got to feel before.
This Is What Healing Can Feel Like:
Emotional whiplash: calm one day, chaos the next
Exhaustion: from holding space for yourself
Anger: that it’s taking so damn long
Numbness: because you’re tired of caring
Fear: that you’ll never “get there”
Sound familiar?
This isn’t failure.
This is the process.
What to Do When You’re Over It
Pause. Not Quit.
Step back, not out. You can rest without giving up.Simplify.
Drop the 10-step routine. What’s the one thing that helps? Do just that.Rage, Cry, Scream.
Feel it all. Get it out. Let it move.Talk to Someone Who Gets It.
Not everyone will understand—but some people do. Find them.
You’re Not Behind. You’re Human.
You don’t need to heal fast.
You don’t need to heal perfectly.
You don’t need to heal all the time.
Sometimes healing means holding on.
Sometimes healing means letting go.
Sometimes healing means being still.
If you’re in that place—the tired, messy, over-it place—come to my next Somatic Reset Class.
No pressure. No perfection. Just real tools for real people.