The Problem with ‘Good Vibes Only’: Why You Need Space for the Hard Stuff
Good Vibes Only? Nope.
You’ve seen it everywhere:
"Good vibes only."
"Stay positive."
"High vibrations only."
But what about the grief?
What about anger?
What about those days where everything just feels fcked*?
This post is for the ones who’ve felt like they had to fake peace just to belong in wellness spaces.
You don’t.
Let’s talk about it.
You Can’t Heal What You Won’t Feel
Here’s the truth: Light needs darkness.
Healing isn’t about avoiding the hard stuff—it’s about moving through it.
If you’re always chasing “good vibes,” you’re missing half the journey.
Anger is valid.
Grief is sacred.
Fear is protective.
They’re not enemies. They’re part of you.
"Feel it all. Or you’ll feel it later—louder."
The Science of Suppressed Emotion
When you suppress emotion, it doesn’t disappear—it gets stored.
Unprocessed grief → tight chest, fatigue, brain fog.
Repressed anger → headaches, jaw tension, digestive issues.
Constant “positivity” → anxiety under the surface.
Your nervous system is smarter than any mantra. It knows when you’re lying to yourself.
Why We Need Space for All Emotions
When you allow all your emotions, you:
Regulate more fully.
Trust yourself more deeply.
Heal more sustainably.
You don’t need to fix everything.
You need to witness it.
Feel > Fix.
How to Hold Space for Your Hard Stuff
Set the Mood: No pressure. Just time + quiet.
Name It: “I feel angry.” “I feel alone.” “I feel hopeless.”
Move It: Shake, breathe, stomp, cry, scream into a pillow.
Rest After: Let your body recalibrate.
Let’s Ditch the ‘Love and Light’ Mask
The most powerful thing you can do is be honest with yourself.
You’re not failing if you’re sad.
You’re not broken if you feel rage.
You’re human.
And your healing? It starts with truth, not forced gratitude.